I've read about surrogates who have all of one sex (boy/girl) and always wanted the other, and faced their own disappointments when the child they have for another is the boy/girl they had hoped to have one day.
When I first started in the surro-world, I had one of each. A boy and a girl. I was so proud! Then came my first surro-daughter, Mimi, she was so beautiful and perfect and a dream come true for her parents. When I found out that the next child, for my family, was a girl, I felt heartbreak. Mimi was my baby girl. Seems odd really, she wasn't "my" child so why would I feel sadness that a child meant for my family would step in front of that? It doesn't make much sense to me now, although I do understand the reasons, but back then it's what I felt.
I went on to have another TS child, a girl. And then again another, a girl, a sibling for Mimi. I had really hoped that Mimi would have a sister since she lives in a houseful of boys, and was so pleased when the ultrasound tech announced the bouncing little baby inside of me was a girl. Her dad was disappointed, he had hoped for a boy.
Why worry about having a boy now? In the surrogate world, the parents you are helping can promise the world in regards to contact but disappear after they have their child - or even a handful of years in the future. It really depends what they feel is best for their family, contact is just a gift they give and to what extent, if any, is up to them.
But ohhhh - if Shing does decide to have a child, how amazing it would be to have a baby boy this time. A brother to Emily. A son. Shing would have both a daughter and a son - well, so long as that's what he would like :) And me.... may not be a son to raise, but a son to love and cherish and watch grow. To hug and love, as a son. A little girl again would be just as precious, but a son? Ohhh *dreamy*
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